Monday, February 15, 2010

v-day/groups

Well as everyone knows Sunday was Valentin's day. I agree with one of my friends it is known as singles awareness day. LOL. Let's just say I didn't have the best Day that day. I did have fun going to church and seeing friends.But there was either to much love coming from the couples that are getting ready to get married before next year or hostility from the single people. Then it doesn't help when it is supposed to be a day about caring and there are people that start to argue around. And when no matter where you go, school, church, or just hanging out around the mall or what ever, you can see how people have their own little, groups, gangs, clubs, ect. It drives me nuts that people are still doing this ALL OVER. I don't like it when people have their own little clicks and only hang out with only certain people. It drove me nuts in high school and it still does to this day, and I am kind of surprised to see it at church. Were are supposed to be about helping everyone and being together yata yata, then why do I see every Sunday at munch and mingle the same people at the same tables with the same other people. you have your populars, outsiders, crazies, jocks, ect. Just like high school. I never picked a group then and I still don't really now. I have the people that know me better then the others but I try to talk to other people but it is hard when you get those looks, and when you feel like you are always being judged. And as hard as it may seem to believe I tend to be shy and keep to myself. It took me so long to becoming more outgoing and be more open to meeting people i don't know and it still is for me. I like having friends but most of the time I feel like some of them are fake friends. I am sorry if any of you that read this disagree with me, but this is what I see all the time everyday and I honestly am a little annoyed with it.

5 comments:

  1. hey i totally get that valentines day can be hard!!! i'm ALWAYS single on vday and even though i'm ok with not dating anyone it can still be a little lonely that day. you just have to remember that vday is about love and that can come from way more places then just a bf. i hope you know that you can always sit with me at church i'd love that. :)

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  2. That really sucks that you even feel judged at curch, the one place that you should not feel judged AT ALL! That should be the one place where you feel accepted by all! I hope your week gets better!

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  3. Yeah, isn't that annoying? I think it has to do with people's comfort zones, and honestly you are better off because you can move from group to group. I think people just get intimidated by people who aren't afraid to make friends. Isn't that bizarre?

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  4. so we had a lady give a talk that this Sunday that goes along with what you are talking about! It was really good but she talked about how her family moved into a very UNfriendly ward in Washington. Finally, her husband told her "instead of complaining about it, do something about it." I'm not telling you to stop complaining... don't worry! :) But anyways, their family started visiting the other families every week until the got to know almost everyone. Turned out before they moved this ward became one of the friendliest and they were baptizing people every week. Crazy huh? That's something that I have to wory on too. We all just get too comfortable with the people and places we know. "Comfortable" doesn't always mean we are learning and growing though! Don't worry about people judging you either... I still have to work on that one myself! Good luck!

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  5. Hey Brittani! Can I let you in on a secret? I have been going to the branch for a long time. I might be the longest one there! haha But when I first started going I hated it cause no one knew who I was and I felt like no one cared who I was and maybe people wouldn't like me. And then, after a few miserable years I came back and realized that there were probably people there who needed me to be their friend, and the more I tried to know people the more I loved the people there. I won't lie. It was hard. Sometimes I would go home and cry cause I didn't know anyone, but now, I feel like I have friends there. Not because I'm super awesome or great, cause I'm so not, but because I tried, and other people need friends too. Keep trying! You're doing better than you know! :)

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